Love Isn’t Enough: The Real Reason Relationships Fail When Purposes Don’t Align

Have you ever found yourself building your whole world around your partner—making him your purpose, your reason, your compass? It sounds romantic, almost selfless. But what if I told you that this can be one of the most dangerous moves for both your relationship and your fulfillment?

It feels good at first, sure. There’s a comfort in it, a sense of belonging. But sooner or later, a subtle discomfort creeps in. Because something feels…missing. You might wonder, Is this really it?

See, your purpose isn’t something you pull out of thin air or find on your own. The deepest, truest kind of purpose isn’t just about you or just about him; it’s the shared ground where you both stand. It’s like a magnet pulling you both in the same direction, guiding you through life. You each bring your strengths, your passions, but you’re moving toward the same end—together.

If you’re with someone and your purposes don’t align? That’s when things get tricky. You’re left trying to fit into a mold that’s not truly yours, or worse, trying to make him fit into yours. It might work temporarily, but ultimately, it’ll feel like you’re flying toward two separate destinations.

Imagine this: you and your husband in the cockpit of a plane. He’s the pilot, you’re the copilot, working as a team. But what if you each have different coordinates? What if you both see the destination differently? You may get somewhere, but there’s no real harmony. And the further you go, the more that lack of alignment pulls at the seams of your journey.

Purpose, in its purest form, is not something you “find” alone. It’s something you share and recognize from the start. It’s like knowing, deeply and without a doubt, that you’re on a path together—not one person tugging the other along, not two people going in different directions. It’s the magic of moving together, with each step strengthening your partnership rather than pulling it apart.

Now, that doesn’t mean you give up on your dreams, ambitions, or personal growth. Quite the opposite. Your unique strengths, when they align with his, create a powerful current pulling you toward something greater than either of you alone. You’re not losing yourself; you’re finding the most fulfilled version of yourself as you move toward a purpose you both believe in.

So, here’s the truth: if you’re with someone whose purpose doesn’t truly align with yours, there’s only so long you can pretend. It’s like driving in opposite directions. And when you make a person your purpose, that misalignment will eventually feel heavy. It’s why so many relationships, even those built on love, start to feel stagnant or strained over time.

So let me ask you this: Are you with someone whose purpose truly aligns with yours? Because when you are, the journey feels as natural as breathing. You’re not questioning the direction or the destination. You’re just living, building, and thriving, side by side.

Find someone who’s genuinely aligned with you, not someone who’s just along for the ride or vice versa. Let your purposes connect, deepen, and fuel the life you’re creating together. Then, you’re not two people trying to mold yourself into one another. You’re two people building something far more meaningful, powerful, and enduring.