Fix Yourself So She’s Not Broken

You feel it, don’t you? That subtle undercurrent pulling at your spirit, the constant hum of dissatisfaction in the background of your life. You look around at other women—your friends, the women at work, even those perfect strangers on Instagram—and wonder, “Is this it? Is this what we were meant to be?”

It’s easy to dismiss that feeling. To shove it down with the distractions of modern life, with work, with the constant drive to prove yourself, with the latest self-help fad. But deep down, beneath the surface, you know something is off. And if you’re honest with yourself, you’ve felt it for a long time.

Somewhere along the way, we lost our way. Feminine energy has been buried under layers of societal expectations, empowerment narratives, and career ambitions. And in the process, something precious has been lost. The very essence of what it means to be a woman has been diluted, twisted, and reshaped into something we don’t even recognize anymore.

And while we’re busy trying to juggle all the roles we’ve been told we must play, something even more insidious is happening. We are passing this confusion down to the next generation, to our daughters. We are unintentionally handing them the same broken blueprint we’ve been living with for decades.

What kind of legacy is that?

We need to wake up. We need to fix ourselves. Because if we don’t, we’re setting up the next generation of women to suffer the same identity crisis we’ve been battling our entire lives. And that, my sisters, is something we cannot allow.

But what does it mean to “fix ourselves”? It’s not about becoming perfect, or achieving some impossible standard. It’s about reclaiming what has been lost—our connection to our feminine essence, the part of us that has been drowned out by the noise of modern culture.

Somewhere along the way, femininity became a dirty word. It became synonymous with weakness, with submission, with something lesser than. And in our quest for equality, we traded in our softness for hard edges, our nurturing nature for independence, our intuition for logic. We convinced ourselves that to be equal to men, we had to become more like them.

But equality doesn’t mean sameness.

Women and men were never meant to be the same. We are complementary forces, each with our own unique strengths and gifts. And when we try to deny or suppress the very things that make us women, we are not just hurting ourselves—we are hurting everyone around us. Especially our children.

Because here’s the truth: when women abandon their femininity, they lose their ability to nurture. And nurturing is not just about raising children. It’s about creating a space where life can flourish—whether that’s in a family, a relationship, or a community. When women lose touch with their femininity, they lose touch with their power to heal, to create, to breathe life into the world around them.

And when we don’t nurture, we neglect. We neglect ourselves, we neglect our relationships, and we neglect the future.

Our daughters are watching. They are absorbing everything we do, everything we say, and everything we are. They are learning what it means to be a woman from us. And if we don’t show them what true femininity looks like, they will grow up just as lost as we are.

Do we really want that for them?

The answer is no. Of course not. But knowing that isn’t enough. We have to take action. We have to begin the work of reclaiming our femininity, of reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we’ve buried for too long.

It starts with self-awareness. You have to ask yourself the hard questions: Where have I lost touch with my feminine energy? How have I allowed society’s expectations to shape my identity as a woman? Where have I abandoned softness, grace, intuition, in favor of independence, control, and rigidity?

These aren’t easy questions. But they are necessary.

And then, once you have that awareness, it’s about making changes. Small changes, at first. Relearning what it means to be soft without being weak. Relearning how to lead with your intuition instead of your mind. Relearning how to nurture—not just others, but yourself.

Because if we can’t nurture ourselves, how can we expect to nurture anyone else? How can we expect to teach our daughters to honor their own feminine nature if we are constantly denying ours?

This isn’t about rejecting everything modern culture has given us. There is value in the progress we’ve made as women, in the rights we’ve fought for, in the freedoms we now enjoy. But freedom without purpose is hollow. And the purpose of femininity is not just to exist alongside masculinity—it is to balance it, to complement it, to bring something vital to the table that men simply cannot.

And let’s be clear: this is not about putting all the blame on women. Men have their own roles to play, and many are just as lost as we are. But we cannot control what men do or don’t do. We can only control ourselves. And that is where our power lies.

If we want to see change, we must start with ourselves. We must lead by example, not just for our daughters, but for the men in our lives as well. Because when women step into their true feminine power, something incredible happens. Men rise to meet them. They step into their masculine power in response, and the balance that has been lost is restored.

But it starts with us.

We have to stop waiting for the world to change before we do. We have to stop waiting for permission to embrace our femininity, to reclaim our softness, our intuition, our nurturing nature. No one is going to give us that permission. We have to take it.

We have to remember that femininity is not a weakness. It is a strength. It is the force that breathes life into everything around us. And when we deny that force, we are denying the very essence of who we are.

So fix yourself, for her. Fix yourself so that your daughters won’t have to grow up with the same confusion and identity crisis you did. Fix yourself so that the next generation of women can grow up with a clear understanding of what it means to be truly feminine, of what it means to be a woman.

Fix yourself so she’s not broken.

And in doing so, you will heal not just yourself, but the world around you.